Warning against the adulteress
The father urges his son to internalize wisdom so he will avoid the seductive destruction of adultery. Illicit sexual sin is morally deceptive, socially ruinous, and ultimately death-producing, while marital fidelity is the proper sphere for sexual joy and blessing. The passage closes by grounding t
Commentary
5:1 My child, be attentive to my wisdom, pay close attention to my understanding,
5:2 in order to safeguard discretion, and that your lips may guard knowledge.
5:3 For the lips of the adulterous woman drip honey, and her seductive words are smoother than olive oil,
5:4 but in the end she is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword.
5:5 Her feet go down to death; her steps lead straight to the grave.
5:6 Lest she should make level the path leading to life, her paths are unstable but she does not know it.
5:7 So now, children, listen to me; do not turn aside from the words I speak.
5:8 Keep yourself far from her, and do not go near the door of her house,
5:9 lest you give your vigor to others and your years to a cruel person,
5:10 lest strangers devour your strength, and your labor benefit another man’s house.
5:11 And at the end of your life you will groan when your flesh and your body are wasted away.
5:12 And you will say, “How I hated discipline! My heart spurned reproof!
5:13 For I did not obey my teachers and I did not heed my instructors.
5:14 I almost came to complete ruin in the midst of the whole congregation!”
5:15 Drink water from your own cistern and running water from your own well.
5:16 Should your springs be dispersed outside, your streams of water in the wide plazas?
5:17 Let them be for yourself alone, and not for strangers with you.
5:18 May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in your young wife –
5:19 a loving doe, a graceful deer; may her breasts satisfy you at all times, may you be captivated by her love always.
5:20 But why should you be captivated, my son, by an adulteress, and embrace the bosom of a different woman?
5:21 For the ways of a person are in front of the Lord’s eyes, and the Lord weighs all that person’s paths.
5:22 The wicked will be captured by his own iniquities, and he will be held by the cords of his own sin.
5:23 He will die because there was no discipline; because of the greatness of his folly he will reel.
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Historical setting and dynamics
This instruction assumes an Israelite household world in which the family was the basic economic and social unit, inheritance and lineage mattered greatly, and adultery threatened paternity certainty, household stability, and public honor. The warning that one’s labor could benefit another man’s house reflects a world where property, offspring, and family continuity were tightly bound together. The final appeal to the whole congregation also shows that sexual sin was not a merely private matter; it had communal consequences and public shame. The passage speaks from within covenant life, where moral choices are accountable before the Lord and before the community.
Central idea
The father urges his son to internalize wisdom so he will avoid the seductive destruction of adultery. Illicit sexual sin is morally deceptive, socially ruinous, and ultimately death-producing, while marital fidelity is the proper sphere for sexual joy and blessing. The passage closes by grounding that warning in the Lord’s all-seeing moral governance.
Context and flow
This unit sits in the opening father-son instruction section of Proverbs, where wisdom is repeatedly contrasted with the seductive paths of folly. It follows the broader appeal to heed instruction and warns specifically against sexual sin, then moves from the danger of the adulteress (vv. 1–14) to the positive pattern of exclusive marital delight (vv. 15–20). The final verses bring the lesson to theological closure: the Lord sees every path, sin ensnares the sinner, and refusal of discipline ends in death.
Exegetical analysis
The unit opens with the standard parental summons, "My child," which marks this as instruction meant to be received, not merely observed. Verses 1–2 state the purpose: wisdom and understanding are to be internalized so that discretion and knowledge will guard the learner. The warning begins with the classic wisdom pattern of surface appeal followed by hidden outcome: the adulterous woman’s speech is sweet and smooth, but the end is bitter and deadly. The imagery is carefully moral rather than merely sensual. Honey and oil suggest immediate attraction; wormwood and the double-edged sword expose the destructive end. The point is not that temptation feels unpleasant up front, but that its final character is ruin.
Verses 5–6 intensify the warning by describing her as a path to death and Sheol. The Hebrew in verse 6 is compressed, and the sense is that her course is unstable and morally crooked even when it seems level and safe. The son is told not to argue with temptation but to keep far away from it, even from the door of her house. Wisdom here is preventive, not reactive.
Verses 9–14 spell out the consequences in concrete household terms. Sexual sin drains strength, years, and labor; what the sinner gains in the moment is lost in long-term ruin. The mention of "strangers" and "another man’s house" points to the loss of one’s own life’s productivity to outsiders. The lament in verses 12–14 is the voice of the ruined man looking back in shame. He hates discipline, rejects reproof, disobeys teachers, and ends up almost publicly destroyed "in the midst of the whole congregation." The passage thus presents sexual sin as both personal folly and public disgrace.
Verses 15–20 move from prohibition to positive alternative. The water imagery is figurative and should be read as marital exclusivity and delight. A man is to enjoy his own cistern, well, springs, and fountain; he is not to disperse what belongs within marriage into the public square. The rhetorical questions in verses 16–17 assume the answer no: one should not share what belongs to one’s own covenant household. Verse 18 blesses the fountain and calls the son to rejoice in his "young wife." Verse 19 uses poetic, even erotic, imagery—a loving doe and graceful deer—to commend affectionate satisfaction within marriage. The command to be "captivated" by her love at all times is not an indulgence of lust but a call to exclusive, enduring marital delight.
Verses 20–23 close with moral and theological grounding. The appeal in verse 20 exposes the irrationality of adulterous desire in light of the good gift of a wife. Verse 21 is the decisive theological anchor: the Lord sees all human ways and weighs every path. Sin is not hidden, and its consequences are not random. Verses 22–23 describe a self-entangling judgment: the wicked is seized by the cords of his own sin. The final result is death, not because discipline was lacking as an external excuse, but because he rejected discipline and embraced folly. The passage therefore teaches both external consequence and internal moral causality; sin is self-destructive under God’s just gaze.
Covenantal and redemptive location
This passage stands within the wisdom tradition of Israel under the Mosaic covenant. It assumes the moral order of God’s law, especially the prohibition of adultery, and applies it to the formation of covenant fidelity in everyday life. The concern for household stability, inheritance, and public shame fits the life of Israel as a covenant people living under the Lord’s scrutiny. While not a direct prophecy, the passage contributes to the broader biblical theme that faithful covenant life includes disciplined sexuality, protection of the household, and reverent submission to God’s moral governance.
Theological significance
The passage teaches that God’s moral order is real, observable, and inescapable: he sees every path and weighs every life. It also presents sin as deceptive and self-destructive rather than merely forbidden; the sinner is eventually captured by his own iniquities. Wisdom is shown to be a means of life, guarding the person from ruin through disciplined obedience. Marriage is presented as a good gift from God, and sexual desire is to be received within the covenant of fidelity rather than turned outward in betrayal. The communal dimension of sin is also important: private immorality can lead to public disgrace and household harm.
Prophecy, typology, and symbols
No direct prophecy appears here. The adulteress functions as a wisdom warning, not a typological personification requiring allegorical expansion. The cistern, well, springs, and fountain imagery should be taken as metaphors for exclusive marital enjoyment and not forced into speculative symbolism.
Eastern thought, culture, and figures
The passage reflects a household-centered honor/shame world in which sexual betrayal harmed lineage, inheritance, and family reputation. The warning that labor may benefit "another man’s house" fits a concrete ancient setting where family continuity and property transfer were serious matters. The whole-congregation lament shows that moral failure was publicly meaningful, not a merely private preference. The imagery of water sources assumes a practical, embodied way of thinking: what belongs to one’s own house should remain within proper covenant bounds.
Canonical and Christological trajectory
Within the Old Testament, this passage joins the larger wisdom witness that calls God’s people to holiness, discipline, and faithful covenant living. Later Scripture will use marriage as a major covenant metaphor, and the prophets will treat infidelity, including idolatry, as adultery against the Lord. The New Testament continues the demand for sexual purity and undivided loyalty. Canonically, the passage contributes to the pattern of wisdom that finds its fullest embodiment in Christ, who is the wisdom of God and who calls his people to pure, disciplined, covenant faithfulness.
Practical and doctrinal implications
Believers should treat sexual sin as spiritually dangerous, not merely embarrassing or private. Preventive boundaries are wiser than trying to escape temptation after prolonged exposure. Marriage is a good gift to be cherished, and marital fidelity is meant to be joy-filled, not joyless. Discipline, correction, and accountability are necessary means of moral preservation. The Lord’s all-seeing knowledge means that hidden sin is never truly hidden, and repentance must be paired with a serious hatred of folly.
Textual critical note
No major textual-critical issue requires special comment.
Interpretive cruxes
Verse 6 is syntactically compressed and somewhat difficult, but the overall sense is clear: the adulteress’s path is unstable and leads away from life. The water imagery in verses 15–20 is poetic and should be read as marital exclusivity and delight, not as an invitation to allegory or a general endorsement of erotic excess.
Application boundary note
This passage should not be collapsed into generic moralism or treated as if it were chiefly about self-control in the abstract. Its setting is covenantal wisdom within Israel’s household world, and its marital imagery should not be forced beyond its intended scope. The church may draw principled instruction from it, but it should not erase the passage’s concrete focus on fidelity, family stability, and the Lord’s moral scrutiny.
Key Hebrew terms
ḥokhmāh
Gloss: wisdom
The father is not offering abstract insight but practical moral skill for life under God. Wisdom here is the means of discernment that guards against seductive folly.
tevûnāh
Gloss: understanding, discernment
This term stresses perceptive judgment. The son must not merely hear advice; he must develop discernment that recognizes deception before it becomes ruin.
mûsār
Gloss: discipline, correction
Discipline is the corrective instruction the son must embrace. Rejecting it leads to moral collapse and regret at the end of life.
derekh
Gloss: way, path, course of life
The repeated path imagery frames morality as a chosen course. The adulteress’s way appears attractive but is actually unstable and deathward; the Lord weighs every path.